The True Measure Of Success
- by Ken Livingston
It
has been said that when one is faced with the certain reality of
imminent death their mind becomes crystally focused. Trivial and
mundane matters of life yield to those succinct and final matters of
one's uniquely personal existence. The rapidly diminishing inventory of
that life's allotment of deeds, actions, breath, and final words become
of supreme value.
And, so, it is commonly accepted that with most, and in
these individuals, truth triumphs. Incorrect impressions, falsehood, ambivalence,
and all those human characteristics of false identity, built up around one's
personal presentations for their perceived character and reputation, are
exchanged for certainty of understanding. Protective shades erected as
needed over a lifetime, no longer significant, are finally lowered,
allowing the light of truth to shine upon one's at last bared soul for
all to finally see as it truly has been and now is. If one is given the
opportunity for final reflection, pretense, if it existed, having no more
value, releases its human hostage. And, sometimes, if an observer looks
carefully, within the coldest of hearts can be seen the vestiges of worth
given to all humans in their beginning.
In these individuals, we observe intently their actions, listen
carefully to their words, and hang desirously on their every nuance, not
wanting to miss a single morsel in the final moments of our shared human
contact, collecting, cataloging, and associating every detail for greater
meaning to be given the life passing before us, and greater understanding
for our own personal benefit. It is as though we are given the final
pieces of a life's puzzle that, when inserted, will disclose its true identity.
What we observe and learn appeals to our reason and common sense with
such clarity that any skepticism we may have held is quickly dismissed
and we assent to the validity of what we glean from them. Invariably,
those thoughts and ideas that are of supreme importance to those
individuals, are desired by them to be embraced by we who surround them
in their final moments of life. Therefore, when the words of one's life
are weighed for greater credibility, it is commonly accepted that their
final may carry the day.
Since early man, writers and biographers, of both the famous and
infamous, have made it their life's work to document for posterity these
last human deeds and words. Those who have lived before us, if not all, at
least enough for verification, a life of sterling integrity, the actions
and words of their final days or moments are in complete harmony with
that life. There is no contradiction, only a synthesis of its critical
purpose and points. However, in one whose life has not been lived as
exemplarary, those final observations stand in glaring contrast. In most,
long shunned truth finally rises to the surface, supplanting a life of
opposite perceptions, either in falsely held ideas, or sometimes, a whole
life lived around that falsity.
Of the former, and at one end of the human spectrum, are the examples
of men and women of great renown, those who stand as paragons of human
virtue and character. Among these are seen the great leaders of and
contributors to any society in every generation, as well as those with
whom we all have had daily contact in our own lives: parents, teachers,
community benefactors, and so on. Of the latter, and at the opposite end
of the spectrum, are corrupt, immoral, and unjust leaders, the
perpetrators of great crimes against society, and those who have lived in
our own neighborhoods who have been antagonists of all that is just among
us: an unscrupulous family member, co-worker, neighbor, local leader, etc. Without
naming any specifically, from our individual personal knowledge and
experiences, examples of both the former and latter quickly come to mind.
All of us, with varying degree, look curiously upon this human
spectrum, using it as a gauge to identify our own respective places.
Typically, the former inspire us to live our lives in such a way as to
move us toward that more just and desirable end, away from the behavior
of the latter that would draw us down a path to, at the least, a life at
odds with truth, and at worst, a tragic life of unrealized potential,
waste, and ruin.
These are the choices, the struggle of life, that confront us daily.
At times, we are triumphant; at others, we fail. But always, we should be
diligently cautious not to become complacent in our successes, nor resign
to our inevitable momentary failures. Although certainly accommodating a
profound sense of wonder and joy in this human journey, celebration should
be reserved to the final victory, never acknowledging defeat as long as
there is opportunity for change.
This is the true measure of success, not whether we have won or
lost in our latest attempts, for, on occasion we as humans are destined
to both, but how well we engage the struggle of life and the aspiration
to our best potential of human worth. In the end, this alone will
determine our historic place on this spectrum we call, life.
- Ken Livingston
The Man In The Glass
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